Christian readers, make sure you’re caught up on this week’s background posts:
Today we’re going to wrap it all up with the Christian Player’s Code. But first, a word on the purpose of all this.
All men have a natural tendency to retreat from challenge and adversity. Cowardice is the natural human condition, and we all must fight against it on a daily basis. The last thing any of us wants to do though, is admit this to ourselves. We seek out excuses. We construct intricate webs of rationalizations, to justify whatever course of action we subconsciously deem to be the least threatening to our egos.
Case in point: PUA Hate is an unintentionally hilarious forum for men who are afraid to attempt to improve their dealings with women, and so spend hundreds of hours reassuring each other that Game isn’t real. There also exist a variety of virgin-authored “men’s rights activist” blogs whose sole purpose seems to be constructing an arbitrary framework of beliefs which portray their cowardice as nobility. But we have better things to do today than link to any of them.
The non-Christian anti-game world is small, however, and destined to remain so. Secular cowards must undergo a complicated series of mental gymnastics to justify their inaction. The average man can clearly see their self-delusion for what it is.
The modern Christian man, however, is in a dangerous position. The combination of a real (though mild and vague) scriptural basis for the sinful nature of unbridled whoremongering, and the zeal with which feminist-infiltrated Churchian institutions will grab any stick that they can use to beat the men in their congregations, creates a noble-feeling escape hatch for cowardly Christian men. It’s all too easy to sit at home, self-righteously pouting throughout your twenties, and then settle down with a “born-again virgin” when your pastor starts giving you the old Man Up And Marry Those Sluts stink-eye when you start getting long in tooth.
According to such men, having sex with women who are (basically, and from a biblical standpoint) whores is simply the worst thing you can do, while marrying a sloot is doing God’s work. Well, let’s see. Total mentions of whoremongering in the bible: Less than five. Total mentions of adultery: Roughly one billion.
Sorry, mincing Christian friends. Your Churchian logic might work with your ego, but it holds no water here. You want the moral high ground because you dress your submission to the feminist cause in Christianity? Remember:
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.”
The reality is that the modern Christian young man must choose between the Trilemma of celibacy, adultery, or finding some reconciliation of the Christian and Seduction lifestyles.
For those who seek the third way, here are the three rules to follow if you want to minimize the damage you do to your soul:
1) There are good girls out there. When you meet them, tread carefully.
The majority of women you encounter will be battle-hardened veterans of the sexual marketplace. If they don’t know how to protect their own hearts by now, that’s not your problem.
But there are still some girls who, by virtue of youth, good parenting and a sheltered upbringing, retain some of their naivete. Perhaps it’s inevitable that such girls’ eyes are eventually opened to the dark truth about humanity and the cynical age we live in, but at least you don’t have to be the one to do the opening.
From a Christian perspective, this is more than just good karma. Taking a ride on the village VirtuCar is mere whoremongering. A sin, but no great one. Pumping and dumping a virgin is, technically marriage and divorce. Much more serious shit.
2) Stay of your neighbour’s lawn
Being the other man is fun. On a practical level, a girl whose “provider box” is already occupied, will give you zero static about your desire to keep things explicitly casual.
You can also make the argument that a girl who is going to cheat, is going to cheat. Passing up on that free pussy is like walking past a dropped wallet – the next guy is just going to pick it up and keep the cash anyways. I think this argument is usually true.
But still, that’s some negativity you don’t need to bring into your life. There are plenty of willing slutty single girls out there, and they don’t come with jealous boyfriends who correctly guessed her phone password and now want to put an icepick through your skull.
3) You shall make your mission, and not women, your priority.
Here, we turn to a different source of scripture: The Sixteen Commandments Of Poon.
“III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority
Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man’s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman’s integrity and not lie to her that she is “your everything”. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.”
This is not just good inner game advice. It is good life advice. If your number one priority in life is the next notch, that’s a problem no matter what you think about the virgin birth.
As a Christian man, you already know what your mission in life is. You don’t care much about racking up fresh conquests at two AM in nightclubs. But, if in the course of your life, you capitalize on the opportunities that, in our promiscuous age, will often fall right into your lap, it’s not the end of the world. As commenter Koanic put it, “Fornication is not for men the big sin Churchians make it out to be. It’s still a sin, just like gossip.”
So keep your eyes on the prize, Christian men, and let the small stuff slide.
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I will end this post with one major and obvious caveat: Fornication and whoremongering are sins. If you are a Christian, and you aspire to perfection, you can and should avoid them.
But first ask yourself: Are you using the the bible’s mild prohibition of pre-marital sex to justify greater sin, such as a cowardly and craven life that brings no glory to either yourself or God? If so, it’s time to put away your faux-piety and start playing the Two Games.