No Fate But What We Make

by Frost on September 4, 2012

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Audacious Epigone September 6, 2012 at 9:54 pm

Five minute wall squats in 7th grade? Holy shit, you must’ve developed the thighs of a mongolian war horse.

Elihu September 7, 2012 at 7:53 am

And I was fat too! I had my own personal and permanent weighted vest, you could say.

But it was five minutes total, so I would break it into a few ‘sets.’ Not quite as bad ass.

Drama September 6, 2012 at 7:30 pm

Someone linked to you to bring me here and i’m glad they did. It was a piece of inspired writing and I liked it.

I myself haven’t got much to lose at present and feel a bit lost. However things are comfortable enough that I can’t pull myself out of it. I haven’t truly hit bottom to say no I have no choice but to kick ass. I know I can, but I’m a procrastinator deluxe.

Good on ya for taking care of it when you did.

Elihu September 7, 2012 at 7:51 am


Next week, or perhaps the week after, is anti-procrastination week on the blog. Stay tuned.

sonny September 5, 2012 at 2:40 pm

Yeah after following this blog for more than a year I’d say this is arguably the best post I’ve read.

Elihu September 7, 2012 at 7:49 am

Thanks! I think I agree with you.

Although if you’ve got a spare afternoon, I highly recommend digging through the early archives. The blog took a snooze over the past year, partly because I’ve been busy, but more just as a result of confusion and lack of direction on my end.

The year before that is GOLD Jerry, GOLD! Click on the hall of fame link at the top.

Invictus III September 5, 2012 at 8:50 am

I like the new direction the blog is taking. I really want to see more articles on your life overseas and how you are or plan on sustaining it. I’m set to be free from my current job in about a year and looking to take the plunge.

Elihu September 7, 2012 at 7:47 am

Thanks. I’ll have more to write about the second half of my travels, but I don’t think there’s an EotW Tour part deux in it.

The original dream was of course to have left behind the need to ever work a nine to five job ever again, and just travel/write/own assets for the rest of my life. Hasn’t worked out that way yet, but most things worth doing aren’t easy.

Where are you looking to go? I have a long post in the works on gap year planning, send me an email if you want to hash out plans.

PA September 4, 2012 at 7:12 pm

Hey Obsidian, the white type on black background is difficult to read!

Elihu September 5, 2012 at 7:26 am

So that’s why I’ve been feeling a sudden urge to start drawn-out, passive-aggressive arguments over minutiae, in which I change my position and premises every second comment thread…

har har har

But really, thanks for the feedback, I’m going to dick around with the colours some more.


Rob September 4, 2012 at 4:13 pm

Glad to see you’re back writing. Even if the 5 lessons you wrote about aren’t entirely true, believing them probably helps more than hurts, which is really the point.

Elihu September 5, 2012 at 7:29 am

I believe in free will.

I don’t understand how it could exist, but if it doesn’t, then who cares what I believe? No matter how infinitely small a p you assign to its existence, it’s rational to live your life as if it is a certainty.

david September 4, 2012 at 3:50 pm

Thanks for the encouragement.

The problem, of course, is not so much identifying the fact that you’ve fucked up, as it is identifying HOW you’ve fucked up, and WHAT YOU CAN DO not to fuck up again.

Francis Begbie September 4, 2012 at 11:11 am

“I can control this”

I had to hit rock bottom and read a particular work of fiction to come to this conclusion. Wasted my teenage years in pretty much the same way you did, but as david said, “better late than never”.

Going poolside? Yep, everything is. But you can choose to enjoy it, or choose to be a sack of shite. What way are you going to go?

Elihu September 4, 2012 at 2:24 pm

I think there’s a third option. Enjoy the decline, and fight it at the same time. Even if we’re taking the purely hedonistic route, little gets my motor runnin’ like the sweet salty taste of hippie tears.

Liking your blog by the way, I added it to the roll.

david September 4, 2012 at 9:10 am

Inspiring. I wish I had had half your insight in the 7th grade. The key point is to believe “I can control this.” I’m sitting here at 60 looking back on a life full of regrets and hoping to make the best of the remaining years I still have (don’t feel too sorry for me – good job, still healthy, still working out).

Elihu September 4, 2012 at 2:21 pm

I have a ton of regrets. Every year that goes by, I realize how much better I could have done ____ if only I’d known ____ and _____.

But look at it this way. The more regrets you have, the more you’re learning, and the better off you are. Paradoxically, more regrets = you’re probably doing a lot better.

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