A Cautionary Tale

by Frost on September 29, 2011

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xsplat October 2, 2011 at 6:31 pm

Well written and encouraging to hear it from a young man.

Yay internet. Game is maturity of dating, and the internet is the speeding up of maturity.

Gmac October 2, 2011 at 10:02 am

Excellent post, it captures the North American relationship archetype perfectly. I think everyone knows a guy like Goofus and Gallant. Your post really puts these real world relationships in perspective.

The sad fact is, most of the men out there like Gallant and the women like Jessica are completely oblivious to what is really going on in their own lives.

Goofus is just doing his thing (unknowingly or not), reaping the benefits of game.

Gallant doesn’t realize that his behaviors and actions knock him down a few pegs in the eyes of women — a testament to how sad and true as it is to be “noble” in today’s world.

Jessica can’t understand why she’s so attracted to the promiscuous, selfish, aloof man, when objectively he shouldn’t be worthy of her affections at all.

The “plugged in” Matrix analogy was never more appropriate.

Such is life. Game on.

Z October 1, 2011 at 9:21 am

Nice touch, limiting the conversation to “North American” women. For the most part, they are indeed horrible compared to the European ones and definitely deserve every ounce/gram of what’s coming to them. Unfortunately, European men are just as Beta so the divorce rate is about the same as on the other side of the Atlantic.

anon October 1, 2011 at 3:53 am

I agree with enj. Don’t worry about us decent women who choose decent men. We live very…”decent” lives.
The one man I was the most passionate about I hated with every fiber of my being. It was not a healthy state of mind.

enj October 1, 2011 at 12:56 am

Don’t feel too bad for “decent” women. Many love their “beta” boyfriends.
Looking forward to your next post.

Cheers,

enj

Simon September 30, 2011 at 9:38 pm

Mate, I can’t believe you think you have to be a lying, no good, cunt to get girls to like you. And, like iks I think you’ll become very unhappy if you take that path.

Again, I urge you to re-look at your assumptions with regard to game. Take a look at what you’re trying to achieve by using game. From what I can gather, your life is aimed at making youself look cool to other people. If that’s really what you’re trying to achieve, then great, you’re doing it right, but I know it isn’t.

Your soul is screaming out for something more.

iks September 30, 2011 at 4:30 pm

I’m not at all interested in bossing my friends around or taking the last apple. Actually this mentality is what gradually drove me into a very unhappy place and then away from “game” entirely, so as to run like hell from such a place.

Many gamers, especially Roissy remind me of Bazarov from “Fathers and Sons.”

“We base our conduct on what we recognize as useful,” Bazarov went on. “In these days the most useful thing we can do is to repudiate – and so we repudiate.”
“Everything?”
“Everything”
[…]
“However, if I may say so,” began Nikolai Petrovich, “You repudiate everything, or, to put it more precisely, you are destroying everything…. But one must construct too, you know.”
“That is not our affair… The ground must be cleared first.”

Don’t know if you’ve read it but here’s a good description of Bazarov: (warning- spoilers)
http://www.shmoop.com/fathers-and-sons/yevgeny-vassilyich-bazarov.html

Anyhow, I’m also not at all interested in being:

“the sucker taking girls on $100 dinner dates.[…] the sucker thinking your girl is exclusive while she heads out for a “ladies night” and hooks up with whichever man captures her drunken attention. […] the sucker paying half your salary in child support and alimony for presents and vacations for your ex-wives new boyfriends, while your flesh and blood wears clothes from the Salvation Army.”

I just think there’s a middle ground between being that and being “Goofus.” OTOH I can understand the appeal of being Goofus, Roissy or Bazarov– you very well might become happy doing so– it’s just definitely not the path for me.

Arch September 29, 2011 at 2:09 pm

Now I’m used to being alone and, in fact, that is my preference most of the time. But people hate being alone and this goes back to the start of time. That’s a hard thing to overcome.

Same experience here. I had a withdrawal period at first but that was almost a decade ago. Now, my mind boggles when I see miserable couples together for the sake of not being alone.

Most people see being alone as the bottom of the relationship scale. In fact its probably the center, the happy medium.

Picture an ocean with you floating on the surface alone. You’re treading water and able to breathe. The right woman is a balloon that can raise you up out of the water while the wrong woman is a ship anchor that will drag you down to the darkest depths.

The problem is its next to impossible to tell whether you’re grabbing a balloon or an anchor. Learn to let go quickly when you feel the weight dragging you down.

Rob September 29, 2011 at 1:35 pm

I think one important truth often goes unsaid. Whether the truth is known or not by writers, I’m not sure. But the fact is the majority of people cannot stand being alone for any length of time. The idea of spending time by oneself scares the shit out of people. In my opinion, this fact leads men and women to stay in unsatisfying and unhealthy relationships. Even if guys learn game, and start attracting hotter girls, their tendency will still be to remain in a relationship.

Now I’m used to being alone and, in fact, that is my preference most of the time. But people hate being alone and this goes back to the start of time. That’s a hard thing to overcome.

(r)Evoluzione September 29, 2011 at 1:21 pm

Don’t feel sorry for the “decent” girls. They make choices and live with the results of those choices, just like the rest of us.

If anything, girls who are “decent,” and by that I believe you mean girls who will still be attracted to bad boys, but will resist the impulses of the tingling vagina, these aren’t girls to feel sorry for, these are girls to commend, and to connect with before too much water flows under those bridges.

Feeling sorry for somebody just causes you to lose power. It’s a subtle form of pedestalization. And we all know that pussy on a pedestal is the perfect storm for corrupting that once-decent woman.

Game on, gamesmen.

Tschafer September 29, 2011 at 12:42 pm

For the young women of the world, I’d say that this comes under the heading of “be careful what you ask for”…

Roark September 29, 2011 at 8:24 am

Well are there decent girls or aren’t there?

a September 29, 2011 at 12:10 pm

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