Better Tears In Your 20s Than Cats In Your 40s

by Frost on June 23, 2011

The Freedom Twenty-Five Ask An Asshole Initiative was a rousing success, in the sense that I laughed a lot while writing it.

But did it also have some positive impact on the test subjects? I report, you decide.

Fact #1: I aimed my acidic keyboard at the following two lovely ladies: Lilly of A Pre-Life Crisis, and Kate of Date Me DC.

Fact #2: If you peruse the archives of their blogs and mine, you will recognize a pattern. After my posts calling them out on their lifestyles, they each entered a multi-week period of complete radio silence. Did they spend those weeks in quiet contemplation of their dating habits, expectations, and life goals? Perhaps they did.

Fact #3: Following their periods of asshole-induced reflection, each emerged with a newfound desire to settle down. Kate found herself a BFFAE (boyfriend for eva and eva, in case you didn’t know) and Lilly has embraced getting her nest on.

Here’s what I think happened, in my wildest of narcissistic fantasies.

Kate and Lilly were each trapped in a false view of the world, themselves, and the men around them. They bought into their sex-and-the-city delusions because doing so helped rationalize their exchange of long-term happiness for short-term thrills. Facing up to that reality was a painful process, and could only have been catalyzed by the tactless delivery of hard truths, i.e. assholery. Sometimes you have to make a girl cry, for her own sake. Ladies: Better tears in your 20s, than cats in your 40s.

A few administrative notes to close on:

– The Ask An Asshole Initiative is still a going concern. Stay tuned for more.

– I chose to harass Kate and Lilly because I waded through the mediocre swamps of many, many similar blogs, and decided they were the best. Go check them out if you’re interested in some eloquent, if self-unaware accounts of the lives of modern urban young women.

– Both girls, while deluded, seem to be decent human beings. If you’re still sending them angry emails about what horrible sluts they are, that’s probably an indication that you have some work to do on your own life. Why not channel that anger into something productive? Just a thought.

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

anon July 13, 2011 at 7:06 am

The AAAH installments were eye opening; almost as eye opening as when a cute random guy started flirting with me and then almost lost interest when he realized
I was studying for the MCAT (he was a P.U.A. though, so even though he ended up asking for my number I turned him down).

It made me realize maybe hitting the gym and losing 10 pounds, putting on some makeup and trying to dress well IS just as important as my academic goals. After all, I’m already 21 and I always hoped I’d be married by 25.

superenigma June 29, 2011 at 10:59 am

I flicked through Lilly’s blog there and I didn’t find any multi-week periods of silence, except one where she was obviously on vacation.

Frost June 30, 2011 at 2:06 pm

One month off from blogging, I think she went on a weekend vacation? My pen cuts deep.

Speaker June 27, 2011 at 5:14 pm

AAAH is my absolute favorite installment of your blog., but I haven’t really figured out why. I checked out both DateMeDC and A-Pre Life Crisis and the girls seem really nice and I wish them well, so no bitterness here. Maybe I have a dislike for delusions in general?
Please write more.

Frost June 30, 2011 at 1:58 pm

Believe it or not, I was actually trying to help the ladies figure their shit out. They do both seem like nice girls, and more importantly, thoughtful enough that they each have a following. Hopefully a few more AAAH initiatives to the thought-leaders of the XX blogosphere will trickle down into sanity for the general population….

Jack Dublin June 23, 2011 at 8:02 pm

So we can look forward to you tearing into oblivious and/or self-centered women like Jack the Ripper of emotions? Excellent.

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