If You Deny Reality, It Will Hurt You

by Frost on May 3, 2011

If I set out to correct every piece of stupidity I ever found on the internet, I’d be a busy man.

So I usually let it slide when I come across a retard posting some stupid shit. Life’s just too short. But when that retard is a generally very non-retarded guy, and the stupid shit he writes is a rare outlier in an otherwise impressive body of work, exceptions must be made.

In Roissy’s post on testosterone, the author of Delusion Damage shows up in the comments to rouse some rabble and advocate for the sacred shibboleth of PUA that looks don’t matter. Quoth he:

“One of the best things about Game is that you DON’T have to spend your precious time lifting weights…”

“…because fuck spending two hours a day patronizing a gym. There are better things to do with one’s time, and there are more productive/enjoyable ways to maintain one’s health”

There are two claims here, one stated and one implied. Each is a delusion that DD labours under, and I’m going to take this opportunity to set him free.

The first is that learning Game conquers the need to work out and look good. In my travels around the PUA community, I’ve also encountered the related claims that if you have good Game, it doesn’t matter how you dress, how much money you make, how old you are, or how open a particular girl is to a one-night stand. Game is literally all you need, and attempts to improve your career, fitness, and target selection are all superfluous to the singular importance of good social skills.

But this broad claim is completely ridiculous. Game not only outranks, but completely negates all other factors? I strongly suggest that all men learn game as an early step in self-improvement and conscious living. I also agree that a skinny guy with game will usually out-lay a gym rat who can barely sputter out an introduction. But all else being equal, a man with a given level of charm and social savvy will have more success with women, the better-looking he is. Also, the richer he is, the closer to he preferred age range he is, the hornier she is on that particular day, and so on.

Game is a tool, and an incredibly useful one for the modern man. But it is not a magical elixir. It does not mean a fat, balding 60-year-old in greasy sweatpants can pick up 9s in an upscale club, provided he knows the right opener. A man who wants to improve himself and his ability to attract women should learn game. But improving your social skills is only one potential tool in your belt.


I also want to take on the implicit claim that getting fit requires spending two hours a day in a gym. I work out for no more than half an hour a week, and I’d guess I’m reaping 90-150% of the benefits of a 10-hour/week gym rat. If you work out HARD, and you supplement your workouts with sports, hiking, vigorous drunken sex, wrasslin’ with your dog, and other active hobbies that you enjoy doing for their own sake, half an hour per week is enough.

Delusion Damage is a great site, and I recommend checking it out. But hit the gym first.

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TGP May 6, 2011 at 10:55 am

I have rusty iron plates in my garage. Four days per week I hit it with heavy ass low rep lifting, for no more than 30 minutes. I put on super loud music.

I will be 47 in November, but I feel like I am 28.

Men, get out of the fucking gyms, get some fucking iron, and lone wolf that shit. You will not believe how good you feel in just three to four months.

davver May 3, 2011 at 9:59 pm

Here’s a question for you.

I’m in my 20s, but have the genetic deck stacked against me. Type 1 diabetes, asthma, some bone deformities in my chest I needed surgery on (I have a scar and an indent in the center of my chest, I don’t think its possible to get pecs), and I feel like my body is just generally weak. I play a lot of club sports and I get around town by foot, but I really despise going to the gym to lift weights. It takes everything out of me to do simple stuff.

I don’t feel I’m ugly, but I ain’t hot. I’m 6 feet with a nice face, dirty blonde hair, and blue eyes. Could be doing worse. But I am a lean 130lb with no muscle. What do you think a realistic goal is for me? How much muscle would I want to put on? What is the highest value muscle group to work on to increase attraction (I would think arms if chest is a no go)? I’m mainly thinking looks with shirt on. Once I’ve actually gotten to the clothes off phase I’ve never had a problem getting women to come back for more. How rigorous of workouts do you think it would take and where would I start? I’ve long resisted a personal trainer but trying to do this stuff on my own hasn’t had much results.

As for diet I think I already eat most of the stuff you push here because of the diabetes and my own high standards.

Mike May 3, 2011 at 6:11 pm

Yeah, cat is trippin;. Funny thing is that he recognizes his delusion:

“The Jersey Shore woman isn’t looking to get hitched either. She’s just having fun – except when she’s crying about not being able to find love with a nice hot-bodied gorilla juice head. Yes, these are the qualities which rank highest among what makes the perfect man: a gym-sculpted physique, large physical size, and liberal use of steroids.”

Dude is a small guy who likes Bruce Lee. How to reconcile that with meat heats pulling hot ass at pool parties?

Cognitive dissonance is a mother fucker.

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